Hussain Yee – Dont Be Sad 132 – Dato Sheikh
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The importance of following Islam-istic guidance and the use of "has been" in the context of Islam is emphasized, along with finding the right person and finding the right person through showing strong faith and contentment in the wedding. The importance of praying for the god and avoiding wasting time in a wedding is also emphasized. The speaker also emphasizes the need for strong faith and contentment in the wedding, while reminding people to be cautious and stay alert.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious,
the Most Merciful.
All praise is due to Allah.
We praise Him and ask His help and
ask His forgiveness.
And we seek refuge in Allah from the
evil of our souls and the evil of
our deeds.
Whoever Allah guides, there is no guide for
us, and whoever He sends astray, there is
no guide for us.
I bear witness that there is none worthy
of worship except Allah.
I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant
and Messenger forever.
I advise you and myself to fear Allah,
for He is the Winner, the Most Righteous.
As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
Inshallah to the brothers and sisters, I'm going
to offer you the Islamic greeting another time,
because the first Islamic greeting was not responded
properly.
In the Quran, Allah said, وَإِذَا حَيِّتْكُمْ بِتَحِيَّةٍ
فَحَيُّوا بِأَحْسَنَ مِنْهَا أَرُدُّهَا Allah said, if anybody
offers you the Islamic greeting anywhere, any place
that is halal, not in the toilet, of
course, you should respond in a better manner.
And Allah, when He commands us to do
something, He sends a messenger, Prophet Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam, to show us the way.
He is the way.
And He said, مَنْ سَلَّمَ عَلَيْكَ مِنْ قَلَقِ
اللَّهِ فَرُدُدْ عَلَيْهِ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ يَهُوْدِيًا أَوْ نَسْرَوْنِيًا
أَوْ مَتْجُوسِيًا This hadith normally has not been
exposed to a lot of Muslims.
The Prophet said, whoever offers you the Islamic
greeting, respond.
Even the one who offers you is a
Yahud, a Nasara or a disbeliever.
But we don't offer first.
To the not yet believer, we did not,
we are not supposed to offer them.
But if they are using our greeting, we
can respond.
Then the Prophet explained to us further by
saying, if a person comes to you and
says, السلام عليكم, that is the shortest one,
السلام عليكم, you should respond, وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامُ وَرَحْمَةُ
اللَّهِ وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ If the second person comes
to you and says, السلام عليكم ورحمة الله
then you should respond, وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ
وَبَرَكَاتُ If the third person comes and offers
you the complete greeting, السلام عليكم ورحمة الله
وبركاته There is a maximum.
The addition of other kalima is not from
our Prophet, it's from us.
Such as, السلام عليكم ورحمة الله تعالى The
word تعالى is not from the Prophet.
It's something added by people who have good
intention but not following the way of Prophet
Muhammad.
Then the response is the same because there
is no more addition but your voice should
be louder than the one who offers you.
Meaning, if I offer you the greeting of
peace, السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته the complete
one, your voice should be louder by saying,
وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُ That is how
the adab of offering and responding to the
greeting of peace.
Inshallah, I offer you the second greeting of
peace so that you are able to practice
this important value.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته الحمد لله All
praises due to Allah Almighty who is here
to keep on guiding us for those who
seek His guidance.
And those who want to change, Allah is
always there to help us.
And whoever chooses to follow the guidance of
Allah and hold fast to the guidance, the
Quran and the Sunnah, nobody can turn you
astray.
That's how powerful if you follow the guidance
of Allah.
When we say guidance of Allah, brother and
sister, you're talking about what Allah said in
His book.
Unchanged, uncorrupted.
Stay pure, original until the end of time.
When no other books of Allah can challenge
the Quran.
Even Allah revealed the Old Testament to Moses,
New Testament to Jesus, but Allah never said
that He will protect all this scripture except
the Quran.
Because the Quran is the final revelation.
And He said, إِنَّا نَحْنُ نَزَّلْنَا الزِكْرَ وَإِنَّا
لَهُ لَحَافِظٌ Indeed, we are the ones who
have revealed this book called Quran and Allah
named the Quran sometimes Zikr.
Allah named the Quran Kitab.
Allah named the Quran Al-Furqan.
And this ayah, Allah said Zikr.
The Quran is a reminder.
And Allah said, we will protect the authenticity
of this book.
Nobody can make any changes.
Anybody who try to make some changes, people
of knowledge can detect very, very fast.
Now, how do Allah mean?
Protect His final revelation by making it easy
for billions of Muslims to memorize this book.
You can burn the books, but if you
gather a good Muslim who memorized Quran from
China, Mongolia, India, Pakistan, Canada, Africa, they will
recite the same thing again.
That is how Allah protect the last revelation.
Allahu Akbar.
So whoever follow the divine guidance, you will
never be turned astray.
And nobody can understand the word of Allah
without going back to the teaching of our
Prophet, who is the only one who received
the Wahyu directly.
Allah only sent one man, and he commanded
us to follow this man.
And that's why all the good scholars from
generation to generation remind the students of knowledge,
don't turn away from the Quran and Sunnah.
Then nobody can turn you astray.
Nobody can misguide you.
This wording, follow Quran and Sunnah, is something
that the not yet Muslim fear, and also
the Muslim fear.
Some Muslim are so used to the traditional
way, follow the majority, follow their Imam, follow
their Rabbis.
So they do not want, because their Imam
don't want you to be better than them.
If you follow Quran and Sunnah, they cannot
play with you anymore.
You have the right to ask, Sheikh, is
there any reference Quran say this, that this
is haram?
Yeah?
Is there any verses in the Quran say
that we must do this, we cannot do
that?
The same goes, did the Prophet not show
us?
So scholars don't like you to question them
in that manner, because they don't have the
answer for you.
A good scholar will be very happy Even
Omar bin Khattab, when he become the Caliph,
he stood up and he asked his people,
the audience, if I will guide and judge
all of you, reinforce certain reinforcement upon all
of you, I am a new Caliph now,
I am your leader.
If I will judge you not guided by
the Quran and Sunnah, what will you do?
I am your leader.
A lady from far behind raised up her
voice, and normally lady also carry weapon before.
If you will judge us not guided by
the Quran and Sunnah, I will handle you
with this sword.
This make Omar very very happy, he is
not angry, so you are the rebellious one,
you go against me, openly you dare to
challenge me.
They are so proud that there are some
people who dare to stand up for the
truth, nothing but the truth.
And the truth is from Allah and the
teaching of the Prophet.
That's why all the four great scholars, Abu
Hanifa, Maliki, Shafi'i, Hanbali said, if any
of our opinion disagreed with the Quran and
Sunnah, just ignore our opinion.
We are human, we make mistake, we may
be right, we may be wrong.
But Allah, we all know, will not go
wrong.
And the Prophet was guided by Allah.
If he will make a little mistake, immediately
the angel will come and remind him.
It's not like us, angel don't come to
us.
But the other party always come to us
and keep on whispering, okay, okay, you're feeling
okay, don't worry.
You are right, they are wrong.
And then we start to create more problem
in our life.
So even the Prophet before he passed away,
he remind his ummah.
Very important reminder that I'm going to repeat.
I've said this many times, but it's important
to keep on reminding everybody.
He said in one hadith, my ummah is
going to be divided.
He is talking to us.
It didn't happen in his time, but he's
telling us what is going to come in
the future.
The Jew will be divided to 71.
The Nasara will be divided to 72.
All this group of believer, they will be
divided.
Because they have people who have self-interest,
have their own agenda, will try to make
changes.
And my ummah will be divided to 73
group.
That means what is happening to us today
is not new.
The Prophet have alert us that his ummah
will be divided.
And then he continue by saying, Qulluhum fin
naar illa wahid.
All of them will enter *, will go
to *.
You only can go to * when you
turn astray.
You follow the right way, inshallah, you will
enter jannah.
Illa wahid except one group, meaning among the
Jew, only one group.
Who follow the Torah, they will be safe.
Among the Nasara, only one group who follow
Jesus, they will be safe.
Because Moses will intercede for them, Jesus will
intercede for them, and whoever follow Prophet Muhammad
will be safe.
So he said only one.
So now every group is claiming they are
the one.
Become more confused now.
Every group say we are the one.
You can say anything you can claim, but
you must have evidence.
What you say is guided by the Quran,
and the way you do it follow the
Sunnah of the Prophet, then you can claim
that.
And then the Prophet, peace be upon him,
remind his Ummah.
He know what is going to happen.
He said, Ayyuhannas, Ittaqillah.
O people, be connected to Allah.
Have Taqwa with Allah.
Of course, the companion would like to know
further.
What is the best way?
How to stay in Taqwa?
So the Prophet, peace be upon him, continue
by saying, As-Sam'ah wa-Ta'ah.
As-Sam'ah wa-Ta'ah.
Two very important characters.
Attitude, then can save us, and gain Taqwa.
Be a good listener.
As-Sam'ah wa-Ta'ah, and whatever
you hear, is the saying of Allah.
Allah said this.
The Prophet explained to you, you just follow.
Don't care what people will say.
Don't care about how many people is going
to follow you.
You don't worry about that.
Just do what Allah and the Prophet want
you to do.
Then you attain Taqwa.
Wa-Inqana Abdan Habashiyya.
The Prophet now is going further to explain
to us.
Even the one who is conveying the message
to you, who is reminding you, talking to
you, he's a black ugly slave.
People always like to look down upon the
colored people.
How smart you are, even you're a professor,
you're a scientist, but if you are the
color, a bit dark, your standard is down.
You have a BA, but you are white.
Then we know.
We have all these problems, even here, even
the Middle East.
If you're white, everything okay.
When you are colored, they don't look at
you.
They look at your color first.
That's the Prophet said.
Even a black ugly slave talk to you,
what he say is what Allah said in
the Quran.
He's quoting the verses of Allah and he's
quoting the saying of the Prophet.
Authentic.
Listen and obey.
And then the Prophet continue, مَنْ يَعِشْ مِنْكُمْ
بَعْدِ فَسَيَّارَهُ اَخْتِلَافًا قَثِيرًا Whoever survive after my
departure, you are sure to encounter a lot
of division among my ummah.
This is what the Prophet said.
And it's true.
It's happening.
The worst thing that's happening in the Middle
East, what is happening in Gaza, everybody is
talking.
Every government is trying to say something.
But the Middle East is very quiet.
Very unique.
The immediate neighbor, very quiet.
Then the Prophet said, when this thing happen,
there's a lot of اختلاف, a lot of
division.
The ummah is going to be divided.
There are people who want to be under
the enemy of Islam, the enemy of truth.
There are people who refuse.
Even we die, let us die for the
sake of Allah.
And the nation that choose to die for
the sake of Allah and free themselves from
being exploited, for being controlled by the other
force, other people in Gaza.
They choose to fight for the truth.
Nothing but the truth.
They choose to die as a shuhadat.
So the Prophet said, when this thing happen,
what should we do?
Follow my sunnah.
عليكم بالسنة.
Follow my sunnah.
والسنة الاخلافة الراشدين المهدي and my four righteous
caliphs.
Who the Prophet have said they are the
people of Jannah.
Abu Bakr, Umar, Usman, Ali.
رضي الله عنهم So that's why we are
trying our best to remind everyone of us
here the importance to hold fast to the
Quran and sunnah.
He said, I left only two things.
My sunnah, the Quran تَرَقْتُ فِيكُمْ أَمْرًا كِتَابَ
اللَّهِ وَالسُّنَّةُ رَسُولِهِ The book of Allah and
my sunnah.
You just follow.
Nobody can turn you astray.
Guaranteed.
By our Prophet, peace be upon him.
So may Allah make us the people who
have peace and feel contented.
Feel that we are so blessed that we
are following the Quran and sunnah.
Brothers and sisters, we are still referring to
the book, Don't Be Sad.
Today we will be, page my book 205,
if I'm not wrong.
Which one is 205?
The soul desires more if you encourage it.
Yup, okay.
An Arab poet.
But before I continue, Don't Be Sad.
Anybody that you don't like, anybody that you
don't know, when they pass away, do you
feel anything?
Do you feel anything?
You don't feel anything at all.
Nothing to be sad.
But if somebody that is dear to you,
close to you, pass away, how do you
feel?
Don't be sad?
Can you react?
I'm not sad, I'm okay.
Then you are not okay.
You can be sad for the right cause.
Even the Prophet himself demonstrate that when his
last son passed away, Ibrahim, he shed tears.
He cried.
Because that is his last son.
Because if the son passed away, left only
daughter, the daughter is going to get married
to a stranger and they will have children
but will not be named under our family
name anymore.
Our name is been removed.
It will be named to the father.
So male descendant carry the name of the
family.
He felt very sad.
And there is a year in the history
of Islam called the year of sadness.
Anybody remember?
The year of sadness.
Why?
Why that year is?
Because there is a year two very important
person in the Prophet life passed away.
But very unique.
The first one, Khadijah.
His beloved wife who is there to support
him physically, mentally, financially.
She was there.
Never abandoned the Prophet, the husband.
Never belittled the husband.
Anyway, anything happen, he, she never belittle him.
Even he was her salesman.
Nobody, Khadijah, a noble, rich woman, she never
belittle the husband before he became a Prophet
and after he became a Prophet until she
passed away.
Anything that the Prophet want, any support, she
is always there.
Allahu Akbar.
How peaceful our husband is if they have
a wife who always there to make them
happy.
Just do.
Alhamdulillah.
Is that easy to do as a wife?
Sometimes.
Sometimes it can be also a challenge.
Where is my right?
I don't have right anymore.
Of course, you have right.
But how do you exercise your right?
Can you talk?
Can.
Can you communicate?
Yes, we do not want to have a
deaf and dumb partner in life.
We want them to talk, to communicate.
Share your feelings.
Share your pain.
There is nothing wrong.
But the way you communicate always be positive.
Try to understand.
You don't understand, ask first.
You don't attack first.
Don't do that.
And the second is his uncle.
But these two persons who are so important
in his life, one died as a believer,
inshallah.
Jannah will be for her.
The second died as a disbeliever because he
felt very sad.
Even he was the prophet.
He was trying his best to invite Abu
Talib, the father of Ali, come to Islam.
Just follow me, say, La ilaha illallah Muhammadur
Rasulallah.
The sign was there that he was going
to, but now the other sibling of Abu
Talib, the uncle of the prophet, the hardcore
one.
You have so many people, Abu Lahab, Abu
Jahan, all these hardcore people who are anti
the prophet.
Keep on reminding, are you going to betray
our forefather?
Are you going to change in the last
minute of your life?
Don't do that.
Don't do that.
Pressure is there.
That's why when you do da'wah to
the people who is dying, make sure no
other people are around.
Then easier.
Brother, sister, uncle, auntie, say la ilaha illallah
Muhammadur, you don't lose anything.
You have a lot to gain.
And if Allah opens their heart, they say,
and you are the witness.
I bear witness that there is no god
but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad
is the Messenger of Allah.
And the meaning, they believe.
Alhamdulillah, after a few hours they pass away.
You as the witness to the shahada, have
the right to perform solat janaza.
And if you don't know, you can come
and inform us.
We will do it together.
That is where the solat janaza khayb was
recommended.
With one condition, that no other group is
performing that prayer.
No one knows.
You are the only one who knew that
he is a Muslim.
Nobody hear he make shahada, and after that
he pass away.
You have the right to perform solat janaza.
You don't have the right to fight for
the body because there is no proof.
Then there will be a lot of problem
among the family members.
You don't have to do that.
It happened in the time of the Prophet.
One of it, when the Prophet was in
Medina, a young Jew, who is a very
loving teenager, who love and respect the Prophet,
very kind.
When he was not well, the Prophet visit
him, and teach him the shahada.
And he recite.
Immediately after that, the Prophet left, and then
he make a dua.
He said, All praises belong to Allah, who
have saved this young man from * fire.
Because whoever can end his life by saying,
la ilaha illallah dakala jannah, he will enter
paradise.
Very, very important.
Then the Prophet, later on he heard that
he pass away, the Prophet never fight for
the body.
Let the family do what they have to
do.
He form a group of people with the
companion.
He pray, Salat, Mayat, Ghayb.
Funeral prayer.
Without the body in front of them.
You can do that.
Happened to the Prophet, one for the Jew,
and also for the Christian king, who die
in Abyssinia.
With condition, no other group of people perform.
If there is a group of Muslim have
performed that ritual, then the funeral prayer will
not be performed anymore.
But if the body is still there in
front of you, then you can keep on
praying, one group, second group, third group, no
problem.
That year is known as the year of
sadness.
And that is the year, Allah who love
his messenger, know how he felt as a
human, invited him for a very special and
unique trip.
The night journey, known as Israq and Ma
'raj, Allah Akbar.
Never happened to any prophet before him, that
when Allah want us to perform our prayer,
he do not just send to angel Gabriel.
There are other ritual to Gabriel.
But for this, he invited Prophet Mohammad, to
meet up with him in Sidratul Muntaha.
A very unique journey, experience that uplifted the
spirit of the prophet, and every believer.
When you establish your prayer, you feel so
proud, so happy, because you are able to
communicate with the king of all king, directly.
You don't have to wait for the imam,
only you can pray.
The imam is not there, you have the
basic knowledge, you can be imam.
It's not the religion only for the priests.
Everybody have the opportunity to talk to Allah
directly.
And wherever you are, the Muslim, when you
want to worship Allah, you don't have to
look for a masjid.
No.
Anywhere.
That's why the prophet said, five miracles given
to me, was not given to any prophet
before me.
One of it, Allah make the earth a
place of worship, that we can worship Allah
wherever you are.
In the park, near the beach, you know
the Qibla, time is in, Bismillah.
Allahu Akbar.
So you can be sad, for the right
reason, somebody that you love so much, pass
away.
It's very common for you to feel sad.
If you don't feel sad, I cannot be
sad, don't be sad, don't be sad.
I have been attending classes, I also said,
don't be sad.
Then you will control yourself.
Then you create another fitna.
You can be sad, for the right reason.
Somebody that you love, your children, everything, you
should express yourself.
Don't keep it.
It's not healthy.
In expressing thing, I believe, woman can express
better than man.
Man, because of, going to be man.
Manco.
No, no, no, I'm not going to, be
like the normal people.
But, be the right man.
You have to be sad, for the right
reason.
Now let us continue, the soul desire more,
more if you encourage it.
Normally, if you keep on encouraging, entertain your
feeling, of course, there's no end.
But if the soul, the good soul, nafsul
mutma'inna, then that soul, will feel connected,
and contented, with what you have.
Alhamdulillah.
Very peace.
Very happy.
But, there are three type of nafs.
Some people say, three level of soul.
One, nafsul ammarabisu, destructive soul.
Don't care.
Very selfish, me, me, me, everything is me
only.
He don't know how to use the word,
we, together, everything me, mine.
Wah.
Very self-centered person.
Number two, nafsul lawwama.
Inshallah, all of us here, have, gone through
nafsul ammarah, just for your desire.
I want more, I want more, I don't
care about how people feel, this is me,
this is my feeling, my feeling come first.
Even it's against Allah, against the Prophet, my
feeling come first.
Alhamdulillah, we have left that.
Now we move to, nafsul lawwama, the middle
one.
Nafsul lawwama is the middle.
We are in the middle, but when you
are in this middle, nafs, it can go
back to, nafsul ammarah, and it can move
forward, to nafsul mutma'inna.
But we pray that, we are moving towards,
ya ayyatuha nafsul mutma'inna, irruji'i ila
rabbiki raadiyatammarudiya fadkuli fi ibadi wadkuli jannati, enter.
Now when you attend, when you attend this
nafs, Allah is talking to this nafs.
Allah don't talk to the other nafs, very
destructive, you choose the wrong way.
So Allah just leave it to you, you
choose that.
I choose for you the right way, I
warn you, don't follow the wrong way, follow
my way, you choose not to follow, so
you don't blame Allah.
Allah prepare so many halal food, and He
said, eat halal, eat good food, only some
haram food.
But you go and look for haram food,
you are going to blame Allah, Allah qadar
you know.
Now you come to things, you know how
to choose.
When you come to qadar and qadar, you
blame Allah.
This is what happen to a lot of
people, who don't have the right understanding about
qadar and qadar.
They like to do anything, they say qadar,
don't blame me.
You have to be blamed.
Desire is there, there is nothing wrong for
you to entertain your desire, desire towards food,
eat halal food.
Desire towards drink, eat halal drink.
Your desire towards garment, buy any garment that
cover your aura.
That's how you move on.
You desire to talk to people, do we
love to talk to people?
Do we like to talk to people?
You can, but you only talk what that
benefit you.
Don't go and gossip about people when you
meet up with your friend.
That kind of desire is very destructive.
You are backbiting, slandering, it's haram.
But you can sit down, you talk, talk
something that benefit you, benefit the other party,
Alhamdulillah.
We all have the desire, just make sure
that your desire is guided.
But it return to contentment when it is
disciplined.
This is an Arab poet, not the saying
of the Prophet, some scholar is sharing that
how can we control ourselves?
We have been going to other side, but
if you have discipline, control.
The minute you in the top bed, can
you control?
You just control your feeling, don't let your
tongue say anything.
Zikr, La ilaha illallah, is better.
Astaghfirullah, better.
Or pray for the person.
We know we have some friend who have
turned astray, but what can we do?
We cannot talk to them because they are
somebody, we are nobody.
So I will pray for him, that's all
I will do.
A battle between, there is an ongoing phone,
phone call, whose phone is that?
We cannot.
A battle between two tribes in the central
mosque of Kufa broke out when member of
each tribe began to hurl insult at the
other tribe.
When you like to insult one another, attack
one another, it's very difficult to control the
people.
Sometimes the leader can be controlled, but the
people, it's not easy to control.
The chief of the tribe, maybe he have
extra knowledge, he knows, but the public, the
public are very emotional.
You have the IQ and the EQ, very
intelligent, and you have one, very emotional.
They don't care about what is right, my
feeling, he attack us, we must attack them.
That is very common.
A man was in the mosque, steadily make
his escape in order to seek out Al
-Ahnad bin Qais, who was recognized by all
as a consummate peacemaker.
They know that among the community there, there
was a scholar, a great man, who love
peace.
Anybody want peace, he will be there, ready
to help them, to negotiate.
Now peace will only come when somebody is
wise to listen from both party.
If you just listen from one party, you
cannot bring peace.
What is happening, you just look at what
happened in Gaza, every people you say, peace,
peace until today, they are still booming, and
that's another way of talking about peace.
In Islam, if you want to introduce peace,
you must be forceful, not just by word.
If the other party is very aggressive, now
the middle force is coming in, we are
coming.
That mean you are having a war with
everybody, not only the Palestine.
No.
That was a statement lately by the Indonesian
delegates in the Middle East.
Very powerful word, but we don't know what
happened after that, because it's just word.
So the person who are very, very aggressive,
they don't honor word, because word without action
is like a tree that bear no fruits.
It's just a tree.
The Indonesian delegate gave a very interesting speech
in the Middle East.
He said, if you still declare that Palestinian
is your enemy, you want to wipe the
Palestine, all of them, if possible you want
to kill them, they don't deserve to live,
only you can live.
Then he said, we all are Palestine.
Every Muslim is a Palestine.
So you have to declare war with the
Muslim.
Yeah, every Muslim is like one body.
One part of your body is pain, having
some pain, every part of the body will
feel.
Of course we feel, but who are you
and who are we here?
We only can say, we speak up, we
pray, but those who have authority, what are
you doing?
Still talking?
Time for you to take action.
That's how you face all this aggressive force.
But these people, they don't know, they don't
understand word, they only understand action.
Action speak louder than word.
So this man, Ahmad al-Ahnaf bin Khayr,
is known by both party.
Everybody know that he is a good peacemaker.
The man found him in his house milking
a goat.
Very simple, down to earth people.
All these good people before, they don't have
bodyguard, they don't live in castle, very simple
people.
Al-Ahnaf was dressed in a garment that
was not even worth 10 dirham.
See how they dress, also very simple.
Because these people have no desire to the
dunya.
Their desire is for Allah, Rabbul Alameen.
Anything for Allah, they are ready.
Anything for themselves, I am happy, Alhamdulillah.
I survive.
I don't waste time.
I don't waste my money.
I better use that money to do something
that can help other people than just to
make myself happy.
I am happy with my garment, simple.
That's why the Prophet said, Al-Bazaza, meaning
iman, simplicity, is part of iman, be simple.
It was rugged and cheap.
He was, I may say, rugged-looking and
one of his legs was longer than the
other, which gave him a bad limp.
Simple man.
When he was informed of the news, no
change became manifest of his contentment and he
remained calm.
A person, he don't jump to conclusion, what
happened?
Why?
Who?
No.
He was very calm.
Listen.
Why?
Because Allah said that, Iza ja'akum fasikum
binaba'in fattabayyanu.
Anybody come to you with a news, you
don't get excited.
Listen, be a good listener.
Okay.
One day Abu Hanifa, he was teaching in
the mosque, Imam Abu Hanifa.
He left the family at home.
Then news came looking for him.
Where is Abu Hanifa?
No man been sad.
No man been sad.
What happened?
Your house is on fire.
The house was on fire.
What he does, he put his hand on
his chest.
Then he said a few words, Allahu akbar,
Allahu akbar.
And he carried on giving advice to the
people.
Then only slowly he moved back with other
people.
People was shocked.
The news reached you that your house is
on fire and you just put your hand,
you did not stop and then immediately, and
rush back.
It's on fire.
Fire is on.
Whoever is there should know what to do.
But I have to look what is happening,
how my heart respond.
My heart is still calm.
Of course the Prophet even said, when there
is a fire, you don't say, look at
the fire, fire, fire, big fire.
No, say Allahu akbar.
Allahu akbar is bigger than the fire.
Of course the people around there is doing
something.
How do you feel something, you are having
meeting, something, bad news came to you, immediately
you stop, you drive home, you drive like
crazy now.
What will happen?
They may be safe, the property is destroyed,
but the life you say, you will get
involved in accident, you die first.
Because you are not calm.
A peacemaker must have a lot of wisdom,
listen, then okay, you get some important point,
then you start to move forward.
This display of fortitude stem from the fact
that Al-Ahnaf had witnesses, witnesses must strive
and hardship during his time, and consequently he
became such, used to such occurrence.
He is exposed, misunderstanding, disagreement.
He told the man, by the will of
Allah, everything will be alright.
He said to the delegates, with the will
of Allah, everything will settle down peacefully.
He then began to take his breakfast, as
if nothing had happened.
His breakfast consists of a morsel of dry
bread, oil, salt, glass of water, very simple
breakfast.
Our breakfast, Alhamdulillah, you just name it, roti
and all this.
Of course, our life is different to their
life.
He mentioned Allah's name and add, Bismillah, then
he praised Allah after eating the wheat from
Iraq, oil from Syria, water from Dajjala, and
salt from Mir.
Verily, they are a great blessing.
He put on his clothes, took his walking
stick, and made his way to the people.
When they saw him, their gaze become fixed
on him, and they listen attentively to what
he had to say.
He's a simple man, but people respect him,
because he don't take side.
He's not a man like normal people.
Oh, you are my friend.
I don't know them, they are not close,
you are closer, then I will take side
now.
If you come, anybody come to you and
seek your advice, you cannot give them the
right advice until you understand the situation.
So if anybody who want people to just
take side, then you go to the wrong
man.
You must have been fair to yourself, and
the person that you have conveyed the message
also have to play his role.
Allah said, that surah in Al-Hujurat is
a very beautiful surah, anybody can go home,
later you read, it's not very long, and
understand, and that surah, you have the function
of the peacemaker.
If there are two parties fighting against each
other, the third party involved, the third party
is not here to take side, he is
here to make peace, and if there is
another party who refuse to honor peace, then
the third party have to be firm, and
go after, it's a war now.
We want peace, we have talked about this,
the whole world is talking about that, you
don't care, you now veto the peace, then
we have to do what we have to
do, we are not going to talk anymore,
no point talking to the people who don't
listen to you, and they keep on supporting
the aggressive people, and killing innocent people, what
is there to talk?
Don't you feel sad when innocent people die?
You must feel sad, if you don't feel
sad, you are just like an animal.
They say that we are animal, that is
the real animal, who don't feel, even animal
among animal kingdom, they feel for each other,
he said, words of peace, and of compromise,
words that please both sides, and he request
them to depart, and go their own way,
and everybody got to move back, that is
how you find peace, move back, you have
transgressed the territory, back, they
are all acquitted, and each of them left
without a trace of rancour, remaining in their
heart, or in his heart, and in this
way, the ordeal ended peacefully, the Arab said
again, one can reach nobility, even if his
clothes are tattered, and his pocket is patched,
because peace, dignity have nothing to do with
how you dress, it is your character, that
is why the prophet said, I was not
sent, except to bring good character, manners, value
to the people, what you love for yourself,
you must love to give others, that is
why the prophet said, you are not a
believer, until you love your brother, your sister,
mankind, like how you love yourself, we love
to have peace, people love to have peace,
you love people to talk good about you,
you talk good about others, that is how
you move on, brother and sister, there are
many lessons to be learned from this narrative,
one of them is that greatness is not
apparent of clothes, other lessons are that having
few material possessions is not an indication of
misery, and that happiness does not reside in
comfort and wealth, as a man, when his
lord tries him by giving him honor and
gift, then he said, my lord has honored
me, this is in surah 89, verse 15
and 16, but when he tries him by
straightening his means of life, he said, my
lord has humiliated me, human is like that,
human is always not stable, rush, anything
bad happens, why, why this happens to me,
anything good happens, my effort, I'm very smart,
because I'm very smart, I'm clever, that's why
I get all this, hardly they want to
thank Allah, later on, they thank Allah, but
first me, me, me first, that is being
human, we all have this feeling, but we
can discipline this feeling, to make sure that
anything happen, there's a wisdom behind it, when
something good, of course you are grateful, and
also you must be careful, Allah give you
extra, not for you only, for you to
share with others, Allah appoint the prophet, and
he reveal all the revelation, for what, for
him to keep, and make him feel good,
I'm the chosen one, Allah only talk to
me, don't talk to all of you, so
you must come and talk to me, I
don't have to go and talk to all
of you, no, he have to go out,
Allah said, يَا أَيُّهَا الْمُدَّسِقُكُمْ فَأَنزِلُ O you,
Muhammad, who is resting at home, time for
you to wake up, go out, reach out
to other people, anything good, don't keep it
to yourself, share with other people, it's a
responsibility, to share the blessing of Allah, رُبُّ
الْعَالَمِينَ وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَحَدِّسْ Everything that Allah
have given you some extra, share with others,
everything that you learn here, when you go
home, share with your family members, your close
friends, we try to invite them, they don't
have time maybe, we pray one day they
have more time, more committed, they know how
to value, why it's so important to seek
knowledge, to be in an environment among the
student of knowledge, there's a lot of blessing,
can you imagine, we commit sin every day,
each time you come for a class like
that, every step your sin is been forgiven,
how many step have you step to come
here, and one of your status will be
rise up, and you get every good deeds,
10 reward, you get so much from Allah,
but people who don't understand this value, I
have no time, but you have time to
do other thing, you have time to go
shopping, you have time to waste sometime, just
doing nothing at home, so when you have
a class, that teach us the Quran and
Sunnah, don't miss, just do your level best,
it's very important, another lesson we should take
away from the narrative, is that a person
characters and quality, are the yardstick of his
value, his worth, and not his clothes, shoes
or house, his worth is weighed by his
knowledge, generosity, manners and deed, remember in chapter
49 verse 13, Allah said, verily the most
honourable of you with Allah, is that the
believer who has Taqwa, verily the most honourable
of you with Allah, is the best of
you, Allah don't look at your colour, your
race, who you are, but he look at
your heart, Taqwa, this is the only thing
that unite the Ummah, wherever you go, when
you want to value a person, don't value
him through his colour, no, his look, look
at his Taqwa, of course the Taqwa you
can't see, but when you engage with them,
when you talk to them, you can feel,
a man of Muttaqin, is a man who
are very careful with his speech, very careful
with what he does, guided by the Quran
and Sunnah, Ittaqillah, may Allah make all of
us Muttaqin, Ameen.
Inshallah, brothers and sisters, the connection between the
narrative and the subject matter of this book,
is that happiness is not found in Apollon's
mention, gold, silver, instead happiness is something that
manifests itself, in the heart, through faith, contentment
and knowledge, when you have the right Iman,
you will be contented, and when you are
contented, all the good knowledge, sure to bring
benefit to you, if you don't have Iman,
how good the knowledge is, you don't care,
we don't feel for it, because you are
a person guided by your feeling and desire,
towards what you want, not what Allah wants,
so please try our best, to check our
feeling, is our feeling following what Allah wants
us to do, or what we love to
do, let us love Allah, and Allah put
one condition, simple, straight forward condition, Qul in
kuntum tuhibbun Allah, whoever said that I love
Allah, you can say anything you want to
say, but Allah put a condition, Qul in
kuntum tuhibbun Allah, he is talking to the
Prophet, so that the Prophet will inform his
followers, if you say you love Allah, then
Allah put a condition, Fattabi'uni yuhbibkum Allah,
wa yakhfir lakum zunubakum, wallahu ghafur rahim, Allah
is commanding the Prophet to say to the
people, whoever said he love Allah, he love
me, tell them, he have to follow your
way, Fattabi'uni, follow the way of Prophet
Muhammad, his sunnah must come first, not your
tradition, not your feeling, but the sunnah of
the Prophet must come first, any one of
us here who have children, soon your children
is going to get married, they are growing
up, as parent you are involved, don't just
go and engage, marriage planner, wedding planner first,
but you don't talk to a scholar, get
the right advice, to conduct Islamic nikah, marriage,
walima, how should we do, follow the sunnah,
nobody bother now, they only know how to
follow the marriage planner, the wedding planner will
come and tell you, this flower, that flower,
this design, this decoration, you waste so much,
just for that, is that necessary?
Depends how you feel, oh I want to
please my guest, my guest will come from
here, come there, and sometimes your guest are
not yet Muslim, they are foreigner, they want
to see the simple, the Islamic way, because
you are Muslim, they know other ways, they
have been exposed to so many other wedding
before, cheering, dancing, singing, everything is there, but
when you say Muslim wedding, they want to
see some changes, suddenly they are caught by
surprise, wow, you are just like us, they
thought that you are going to show something
unique, why are we so, whether you are
ignorant, or maybe you are just too arrogant,
my way, of course it's good to plan
and organize, but don't waste, and please remember,
one thing that is sure to waste, that's
why the Prophet said, there are six responsibilities
among fellow Muslim, one of it is, if
people invite you for food, especially in hotel,
because every head count, whether you are there
or not, paid already, don't waste, when you
say yes, you must be there, if you
are not there, meaning something has happened to
you, you fall sick, you die, you got
an accident, that's why when you say Inshallah,
mean 99% you will be there, if
you are not sure, tell them, I may
not be able to come, please don't worry,
I will pray for your daughter, your son,
just do that, don't play around, when people
invite you for an occasion like that, when
it is in the hotel, because they count
by head, and if you are wise, you
can talk to the management, I don't want
the food to be wasted, can you prepare
some Tupperware, if it's the policy, no, no,
we cannot, we cannot allow the hotel food
to go out, why, why?
Ah, maybe company policy, if something happens, you
got your food poisoning, now they are going
to blame the hotel, correct, they can give
you a lot of reasoning, is that reason
authentic, or is that reason practical, genuine, if
they fear that if there is a food
poisoning, they check where you get this food
from, this hotel, then the Ministry of Health
is going there, and they may even seal
the kitchen stop for a while, how can
we overcome that, can we overcome that, how
best can we overcome that, you
see that, I will take the full responsibility,
I am the host, I will sign the
letter, anything happen, outside the hotel, inside, of
course, you take full responsibility, suddenly when people
eating, omitting here and then, of course, but
outside the hotel, maybe people bring home, they
keep it for one week, you can still
eat, put in the freeze, one day, one
dinner food, you can eat for one week,
you don't want to waste, example, you can,
there are two way of doing it, if
you say you cannot prepare Tupperware, so we
also can, the card, invitation card said, everybody
can come up with a small Tupperware, you
can bring a Tupperware, yourself Tupperware, maybe you
want to, you can finish, and you want
to put and keep and bring home, you
are welcome, take there some restaurant, no problem,
because you are paid, you don't want to
waste, so please, in the future, if any
of the children get married, they seek advice,
don't forget to go to a scholar, the
family must know, sometimes the children want to
follow the way Islamic, the Islamic way, but
the parent, you know, parent is parent, you
know, the oldest have their song, and the
oldest song, and then the young one have
the hard rock song, you know, different, so
we have to sit down, and say we
want Allah's blessing, we don't want to commit
sin, in this kind of, yeah, occasion, it's
a good occasion, walima is wajib, even a
small walima is a command from the prophet,
when you are doing something wajib, you don't
do something against Allah, displacing Allah, I always
advise a lot of people, please, be connected
with the scholar, seek scholarly advice, if not,
you don't know what is going to happen,
you are out of control, sometimes the immediate
family also cannot control, why?
Why you cannot control?
It's your children's wedding, why you have no
control?
Ah, you have so many family coming in,
yeah, the aunties, more elderly, ah, you don't
know anything, let me handle, ah, now you
are going to start to have so many,
the bosses now, you don't worry, I prepare
this, you look into that, I look into
that, ah, it's good, it's good that everybody
play their role, but don't waste, don't do
haram thing, you must organise in a way
that, the male greet the male, the female
greet the female, sometimes they may want to
hug each other, they want to shake their
hand, the male and the male, the female
and the female, everybody must organise thing in
the Islamic way, so that not yet Muslim
come to your wedding, they learn something new,
oh, this is the Islamic value, don't joke
around, sometimes, when I went to a wedding,
the emcee, astaghfirullah al-azim, he is so
good to joke, and he joke without limit,
yeah, for the non-Muslim worse, sometimes, I
went to a wedding, and then the emcee,
suddenly he speak on behalf of the male
side, and then female side, after finishing talking
for the male side, he went back in
the stage, and he dress like a female,
this is a non-Muslim one, and he
talk like a female, and now he is
walking, he is walking to the table now,
I immediately signal the host, don't let him
come to our table, don't let him come
to our table, I may walk up, Alhamdulillah,
send a message, crazy, you want to make
fun, make fun to yourself, you don't do
it openly, and there are so many adult
around here, astaghfirullah, may he come like a
female, and come to you, and come to
the male, and touch you like a female,
astaghfirullah al-azim, you don't come to my
table, very important, so this is something that
I like to remind, all the good brothers
and sisters, because it is going to happen
to all of us, so please remember, you
need to have strong faith, contentment, and of
course, you must have the knowledge to guide
you, so Allah said to us, so let
not their wealth or their children amaze you,
make you forget about your responsibility towards Allah,
and the verses Allah said, in the bounty
of Allah, and in his mercy, Islam and
the Quran they read, let them rejoice, that
is better than what the wealthy, they amaze,
don't be carried away with all kind of
this dunya thing, be happy to do what
Allah and the Prophet want you to do,
just be proud, be happy for them, people
want to talk, let them talk, but you
will be surprised, a lot of people are
looking for an example, a good way, and
when we can set a very good example,
they will talk, maybe next time I want
to follow this, simple, good, and very peaceful,
so may Allah guide us brothers and sisters,
and if there is anything that we want
to know, further than what we have shared
with you, now we open for the Q
&A session, any questions from the online?
Alhamdulillah we have an anchor person with us
always, good, Assalamualaikum Sheikh, Waalaikumussalam Warahmatullahi
Wabarakatuh, just now Sheikh mentioned about, it is
wajib to attend the wedding, but how about
if we know that the wedding will be
like a mix, with music and things like
that, is it still wajib for us to
respond yes to the invitation?
Yes, a very good question, very relevant to
the lifestyle we are facing today, because sometimes
the Muslims themselves are confused, they do not
know, how to make the Islamic wedding, a
wedding that pleases Allah, follow the Sharia principle,
I don't blame the public a lot actually,
the public are confused, why?
Because the scholars don't remind them, you don't
hear any khutbah talk about this, you have
been listening, the men have been going to
the masjid, to listen to the khutbah, never
once I heard my experience, that they highlight
this issue, they don't talk, number one, number
two, we have failed, the ummah, anybody who
wants to conduct the nikah, the aqad nikah,
to the future bride and groom, they must
inform them, how to do it Islamically, because
the public don't know, the public don't have
any idea, they are so used to the
norm, the rich follow their way, the middle
class their way, the lower class their way,
we set down a standard one, if people
follow, good for them, if they don't follow,
you have done your part to advise them,
but nobody do that, I used to attend
aqad nikah ceremony, they got courses, pre-course,
pre-marriage course, they don't talk about that,
they talk nonsense, yes, joke around, they are
good in that, but they forget to look
into what the sharia say, so now the
public confused, when they want to have this
kind of arrangement, there will be a lot
of mixed thing, fun, so you are invited,
by a Muslim, who don't really practice, they
are good Muslim, they are good in their
heart, but they don't understand, you can go,
but you are not going to enjoy all
the wrong thing, you feel bad in your
heart, but you also play your role, that
what I will do if this thing happen,
then I will whisper among the people around
me, there is a lot for us to
learn, sometimes a good kind of arrangement, or
good environment, but we have all the un
-Islamic entertainment, we have a better way, we
have to whisper around, so that we are
doing some dawah here and there, you are
not going there to be happy, and entertain
what is wrong, and sometimes people call me
to make dua, and this thing is happening,
so that's why I inform, can you inform
me what is going to happen first, can
you inform me what kind of music are
you playing, so I will say, can you
replace with a better one, a nasheed without
instrument, and can you lower the volume, because
people are there to talk to each other,
to get to know each other, and when
it is so noisy, so loud, people cannot
hear each other, so can you do that,
make some changes, and if something went wrong,
that's why when I make dua, my dua
is also to ask Allah for forgiveness, oh
Allah, we have sinned, please forgive us, we
commit sin in every occasion, so we also
ask Allah for forgiveness, we do our level
best, you can go, but always try to
remind them, when they invite you, if possible,
can I know how is the program like,
can you make some changes, at least you
are saying something, you don't give up, because
Amal Ma'ruf Nahimuka needs a lot of
patience, if you are not there at all,
then you cannot play your role, you cannot
talk and whisper around the people who are
close to you, because you are not there,
you know, okay, good, next, any other question,
we are not here to judge anybody, the
public is very confused, very confused, very confused,
that's why I personally, if people come to
me earlier, I would like to know, can
I know your plan, because we don't know
what is in their plan, or you want
to bring all the family members together, welcome,
because it's good for us to know, and
then we try to guide you, show you
the way, we believe there will be some
changes on and off, Inshallah, everybody is doing
their part, I have one incident, the husband,
after Akad Nika, then they have the wedding,
the husband has made it very clear, I
don't want this, this, this, I don't want,
but the other party do not honour, what
happened, the husband just walk down, walk out,
it's not good, but he was so upset,
you are going to do all the nonsense,
and you want me to be there, I'm
not going to be there, we have discussed
this, we have made it very clear, and
you break the promise, it's not good, of
course they have Nikah finished already, because Walima
always come after Nikah, very hurting, people will
talk, but you cannot blame him, he seems
to be very firm with his decision, because
he is talking to the people, telling the
people, and this is happening to him, it's
not easy, it's not easy for everybody, so
everybody must learn how to respect, honour what
we agreed upon, next question, no
more question, Alhamdulillah,
so may Allah bless us, brothers and sisters,
we hope that we understand, what we have
learned today, can you be sad, yes, for
the right reason, don't be sad, unnecessary, if
you still feel you are sad, because you
are lonely, nobody wants to talk to you,
you must in a way remind yourself, nobody
wants to talk to me, this is the
best time for me to talk to Allah,
that's why Qalwa is important sometimes, isolation is
good sometimes, between you and Allah, if not,
too busy, no time to reflect, self-reflection
is very important in life, so may Allah
bless us, brothers and sisters, and be alert
about our environment, be alert about our children,
things are moving very fast, 2024 is going
to leave us very soon, 2025 is coming
in, with a lot of new technology, and
so many new things, that we do not
know, but we must keep ourselves alert, and
always monitor the growth, the changes in our
children, you will know, because you see them
grow in front of you, you send them
here, you send them there, when they come
home, look at their body language, look at
the changes in them, if you know, there
are signs that they are changing, they are
fading now, their Iman is weak, please remind
them, remember the Islamic concept, Al-Wiqaya, Qayru
Minal Ilaj, prevention is always better than cure,
don't wait until something bad happens, then only
you come in, the minute you send something,
quickly do something, or get close to the
scholar, alert the scholar, I've seen this sign,
what should I do?
Maybe you don't know, seek advice, that's why
the Prophet said, Adi Nuna Seha, religion based
on good advice, thing you don't know, ask,
thing you know, do it, share it with
others, that's how we move on, before we
return back to Allah, do your level best,
at least we have done our part, if
not the children say, why mama don't say
to me, why papa don't say to me,
you know this, how we say to them,
and then you get, what you say is
true, when we say they get angry, then
the communication, there's some problem in the communication,
you must listen first, understand them, then try
to find a better way to convey the
message, to talk to anybody, especially children today,
they are growing, they want you to talk
to them, not to scream at them, not
to shout at them, not to dictate them,
talk to them, listen first, we always want
them to listen to us, on and off,
you have to learn how to listen to
them, but we are not used to that,
we are not used, we don't train ourselves
to listen to what our children want to
say, we always deny, you know nothing, you
are still young, but young people are exposed
to many things that we don't know, even
my grandchildren, I always ask them with the
phone today, because they are smarter than me,
even their grandchildren, but when it comes to
all this technology, only Allah knows, because it's
their world, our world is theirs, we are
manual, very ordinary human, they go to the
AI already, colossal, they are living in the
world with the alien now, so may Allah
protect us, brothers and sisters, may Allah guide
us, and may Allah forgive us, and may
Allah help the Ummah, wherever they are, who
are suffering, especially in Gaza, and in any
part of the world, where people always disrespect
the Ummah, and we hope the Ummah also
start to change, to become practicing Muslims, wherever
they are, and show the beauty of Islam
to others, so that people will love Islam
through our character, Ameen.
There is no god but you, I seek
forgiveness from you and repent to you, peace
be upon you, and Allah's mercy and blessings.